Friday, March 16, 2018

TO KEEP THE RELATIONSHIP TO GO ON IN THE RIGHT MOOD, ALWAYS STAY COOL!


TO KEEP THE RELATIONSHIP TO GO ON IN THE RIGHT MOOD, ALWAYS STAY COOL!

Someone fell in love. Unexpectedly. And what's now?It is important to stay cool!

First of all, it is necessary to forget about the stereotypes of the behaviour that the glamour magazines or TV movies show there up...

The more the person takes the relationship seriously and is worried to loose it, the more chances there are to arrive it still will finish in that bad way. Keeping to the behaviour that is common in society there (everything has to be like this, and no way for something else), the person has to control herself or himself, the behaviour of the partner, the surrounding...And all this makes tired very quickly and makes the nervousness to appear on.

There are some couples that seems like to be perfect about everything. But, in one moment they suddenly tore apart for not visible reasons. And the opposite: the couples who do not live according to what is considered like a norma in the society, continue relationship and stay together.

The right decision is to accept the uncertainty. When the relationship is just started, it is hard to control it. The partners do not know each other. They do not know what the other one feels, thinks. Trying to check the guessing there, the person can deal in an impulsive way. For example, the partner can call to get to know something that is not important, to check the partner and the feelings of the partner, may be even sometimes not in a right way. Later such the person can also feel sorry for being that obsessive. Stay cool in this period of uncertainty. In this way it is possible to wait for the development of the relationship in a calm way.

Do not skip the conflict.

At first, at the beginning of the relationship the person does not pay much attention on something that the couple have in different there. Specially, when there is the love present, too. But, with the months and years passing, such the small problem, like dirty socks, for example, can grow up to the terrible measures. It is better to discuss the things that can make the other partner to feel not in a good way, or to irritate, then to keep everything inside. This way, the bomb that can burst later, if not to, will be stopped immediately.

Do not be in a hurry to make yourself guilty about everything.

It is better to look for the negative things outside the relationship. For example, if some evening did not happen in the way it was expected, it does not mean that one or both of the partners are guilty about that. It is better to take it in this way: "Probably, today it is not our day. Tomorrow it will be a better one".

After the first meeting take the time-out.

At the first dating try to get to know as much information about the partner, as it is possible. Specially, pay attention on his manners, his smile, the way he is watching at you and talking there.



WHICH QUALITIES OF THE GIRL DO DETERMINATE THAT SHE WOULD BE A GREAT WIFE?

WHICH QUALITIES OF THE GIRL DO DETERMINATE THAT SHE WOULD BE A GREAT WIFE?

The lady is listening to patiently.

The guys always like the girl that listen to. If the lady can listens to all the strange stories, she is exactly the right one. What the guys normally are talking there about, it is not always exactly what the girls want to listen to. As they are so much used to their regular talks with the girl-friends.

That's why, if the girl listens to the guy's talks, may be she already has imagined the future married with that person.

The girl is charming.

Because of exactly that girl, the guy is ready to leave away all his intrigues. If the guy is ready to get married and exactly this girl brought to this, this is the right one. The person is so charming that the guy can not even think about anybody else. The man can not even think to have a sexual relationship with someone else. Because that guy is thinking just to stay exactly with the lady, who means much for him.

The woman is the most powerful support for the guy.

Despite what the guy meats there on the way, but, if there is the woman who is close and always is ready to do a support, so this is the sign that the woman is a particular one. It can be that the lady does not even realise how much such the presence is important for the  man. But, exactly this presence of the woman, the person being close to him, helps the guy to deal with his problems easier.
The lady is the one that takes care.

For example, the guy cancelled the dating. And, the woman, instead of getting offended, brings the man some food into the office. Such the man is a really lucky one! And, if the guy is also a smart one, he will never let such the woman to go away from his life.

The lady is an attentive one.
The woman is taking care not only about her man, but also the people who are important for that man. She is trying to get to know them and to understand them. And the lady loves these people, because her partner loves them.

The woman and the man have the same preferences.

For example, the lady likes the video games! Then she is a dream of almost each guy! For example, when the woman came into the house of the guy for the first time, and while he was thinking in which way to give her the hint for the intimacy, the girl got the gaming console and win the football game there! Really not that many women there are there around the world who are like this!

The lady likes to make long conversation.

The woman does not just listen to, but also likes to speak. The guy knows that, if that lady  starts to talk, it is not possible already to stop her. But, he likes it. And, supposes that very soon the woman will tell him "Yes, I am yours, I'll marry you".

The lady let the guy to be himself.

The guy can feel free to talk and to do things with such the woman. And, he knows that the woman will be always with him, if he looks nice or not. There are, for example couples, where partners like each other more, when staying for a few days in the bed without getting out of sleeping clothes and combing the hair. May be it sounds strange, but, it is so nice to know that there is somebody that likes you in the way you are, and you  should not pretend about anything there.

The lady is a self-confident one.

The woman does not feel shy neither with her guy, nor with his relatives. And, she always knows how to express her opinion. The lady knows how to deal with the people. And, even if meeting unknown people there, she always knows how to behavior in the delicate situation, too.

The lady is a funny one.

The woman knows how to make a funny joke. If some guy used to found a charming girl with a good sense of humour, he should not let such the girl go away. Because, normally, such the combination it is not that easy to find.

The lady is your greatest fan.

The woman loves the guy like crazy. The guy is her hero, is unbelievable for that girl. It can happen that she does not show up this, but the guy feels that the girl is getting crazy of  the love... Such the guy should not let the girl to go away. Let's talk truly: who does not like to feel himself like a star, even if it is just for one person?

The lady can cook well.

If the guy is a bit more mature, at around 30 years old, normally it is very important for him the girl to cook nice. An established work and the wife who cooks the delicious food, when he comes back home... What else can be better?Not every man has such the treasure  at home!

The lady does not play games with the guy.

The woman is a serious one and does not even give a hint some hesitate to appear. The guy knows that the woman will always respect him. And the lady shows the love more often, then the guy. If, it appears to be like this, the woman is the one with whom the guy has to get married.

The lady likes to flush along.

The woman is not getting offended. If the plan is crashed off, she is looking for the possibility to fix the things and to find the way everybody to feel well. She always stays in a good mood. But, at the same time the lady is doing everything possible not to make the guy to feel sad. At the same time, the lady is trying to get the best from any situation that it is appearing there on.

The lady is a cute one.

All of the friend's of the guy or almost all like the woman. She is not a rude one. And everybody knows that the woman is a smart and funny person. And these feature like all the men so much. To check, if the woman is a cute one, it is enough to get her acquainted with his pet, and immediately everything will become clear.

The woman is a strong one.

It is not that easy to break the woman down, when she or her guy gets the panic there. The lady knows how to deal with the things in any situation. And even if it happens some bad there, even is something not important, such the lady will not make the joke up to the guy. But she will help the situation to go on in the right way. The woman is not the one, who makes the revenge and not the one who gets into the pleasure of other people in that easy way.

The girl is the generous one.

Kindness and being generous - there are the two the most important qualities of the pleasure person. Nobody likes a person who arrives to the birthday party without the present, for example. So, if the woman is a good one and a generous one towards the guy or the people around, very much possible that the heard of the guy will melt out and he finally will marry such the girl.

The lady likes to make compliments.

All guys like to feel themselves to be a particular. It is good when the woman is not keeping all the feelings inside and immediately express them like the compliment. And, such the woman is not jealous when the guy is looking handsome, so the other women can  like him when he is out. For example, the lady tells the guy what suits him more. And, it means that she cares about her guy and how he looks like.

The lady is not a spoiled one.

The woman does not need the expensive presents to be happy. She is getting happy when the guy unexpectedly hugs her or cooks for her. She does not like to complicate the life and she likes just to live on.

The lady is different from other women there.

And not only in the way of being a beautiful one person. It can happen that other women around would be more beautiful, then that lady. But, for the guy exactly that woman will be the most attractive.

The lady is showing the interest towards the life of the guy.

The lady is trying to improve the guy's mood, if something disturbs him. The guy should not treat like the baby, what actually are doing there many guys, to obtain the attention of the woman. The lady is attentive to the guy's needs and habits. For example, such the woman will even make in order the man's socks there in the mood her guy likes. Because she knows that this makes her guy more happy.

The lady likes to stay happy.

The woman is not complaining there all the time. She is happy about what she has. The lady likes to live happy, and she is not flying somewhere in the sky up to the clouds. She is not a boaster. And she never makes the guy to feel worse, then she.

The lady is accepting the guy like he is.

The woman loves the guy in the way he is. She is not trying to change the guy and adore him totally. She is not trying to change the guy. And what can be better, then this?

The lady likes adventures.

The woman will never regret to make a trip to mountains. Even, if it is raining there. She likes to risk. And she is ready to go with the guy where ever, even if she had the desire to stay home. The lady likes to plan adventures. And, the woman has the list of all the unusual things that she is gonna do with the guy once.

The lady can cite the proper arguments.

The woman has all these wonderful features. But she has a strong character too. Nobody can just cross over her and make her to feel the fool. She knows how to express her opinion. And, even to prove it, if there is the need.

WHICH QUALITIES OF THE GIRL DO DETERMINATE THAT SHE WOULD BE A GREAT WIFE?


WHICH QUALITIES OF THE GIRL DO DETERMINATE THAT SHE WOULD BE A GREAT WIFE?

The lady is listening to patiently.

The guys always like the girl that listen to. If the lady can listens to all the strange stories, she is exactly the right one. What the guys normally are talking there about, it is not always exactly what the girls want to listen to. As they are so much used to their regular talks with the girl-friends.

That's why, if the girl listens to the guy's talks, may be she already has imagined the future married with that person.

The girl is charming.

Because of exactly that girl, the guy is ready to leave away all his intrigues. If the guy is ready to get married and exactly this girl brought to this, this is the right one. The person is so charming that the guy can not even think about anybody else. The man can not even think to have a sexual relationship with someone else. Because that guy is thinking just to stay exactly with the lady, who means much for him.

The woman is the most powerful support for the guy.

Despite what the guy meats there on the way, but, if there is the woman who is close and always is ready to do a support, so this is the sign that the woman is a particular one. It can be that the lady does not even realise how much such the presence is important for the man. But, exactly this presence of the woman, the person being close to him, helps the guy to deal with his problems easier.
The lady is the one that takes care.

For example, the guy cancelled the dating. And, the woman, instead of getting offended, brings the man some food into the office. Such the man is a really lucky one! And, if the guy is also a smart one, he will never let such the woman to go away from his life.

The lady is an attentive one.
The woman is taking care not only about her man, but also the people who are important for that man. She is trying to get to know them and to understand them. And the lady loves these people, because her partner loves them.

The woman and the man have the same preferences.

For example, the lady likes the video games! Then she is a dream of almost each guy! For example, when the woman came into the house of the guy for the first time, and while he was thinking in which way to give her the hint for the intimacy, the girl got the gaming console and win the football game there! Really not that many women there are there around the world who are like this!

The lady likes to make long conversation.

The woman does not just listen to, but also likes to speak. The guy knows that, if that lady starts to talk, it is not possible already to stop her. But, he likes it. And, supposes that very soon the woman will tell him "Yes, I am yours, I'll marry you".

The lady let the guy to be himself.

The guy can feel free to talk and to do things with such the woman. And, he knows that the woman will be always with him, if he looks nice or not. There are, for example couples, where partners like each other more, when staying for a few days in the bed without getting out of sleeping clothes and combing the hair. May be it sounds strange, but, it is so nice to know that there is somebody that likes you in the way you are, and you should not pretend about anything there.

The lady is a self-confident one.

The woman does not feel shy neither with her guy, nor with his relatives. And, she always knows how to express her opinion. The lady knows how to deal with the people. And, even if meeting unknown people there, she always knows how to behavior in the delicate situation, too.

The lady is a funny one.

The woman knows how to make a funny joke. If some guy used to found a charming girl with a good sense of humour, he should not let such the girl go away. Because, normally, such the combination it is not that easy to find.

The lady is your greatest fan.

The woman loves the guy like crazy. The guy is her hero, is unbelievable for that girl. It can happen that she does not show up this, but the guy feels that the girl is getting crazy of the love... Such the guy should not let the girl to go away. Let's talk truly: who does not like to feel himself like a star, even if it is just for one person?

The lady can cook well.

If the guy is a bit more mature, at around 30 years old, normally it is very important for him the girl to cook nice. An established work and the wife who cooks the delicious food, when he comes back home... What else can be better?Not every man has such the treasure at home!

The lady does not play games with the guy.

The woman is a serious one and does not even give a hint some hesitate to appear. The guy knows that the woman will always respect him. And the lady shows the love more often, then the guy. If, it appears to be like this, the woman is the one with whom the guy has to get married.

The lady likes to flush along.

The woman is not getting offended. If the plan is crashed off, she is looking for the possibility to fix the things and to find the way everybody to feel well. She always stays in a good mood. But, at the same time the lady is doing everything possible not to make the guy to feel sad. At the same time, the lady is trying to get the best from any situation that it is appearing there on.

The lady is a cute one.

All of the friend's of the guy or almost all like the woman. She is not a rude one. And everybody knows that the woman is a smart and funny person. And these feature like all the men so much. To check, if the woman is a cute one, it is enough to get her acquainted with his pet, and immediately everything will become clear.

The woman is a strong one.

It is not that easy to break the woman down, when she or her guy gets the panic there. The lady knows how to deal with the things in any situation. And even if it happens some bad there, even is something not important, such the lady will not make the joke up to the guy. But she will help the situation to go on in the right way. The woman is not the one, who makes the revenge and not the one who gets into the pleasure of other people in that easy way.

The girl is the generous one.

Kindness and being generous - there are the two the most important qualities of the pleasure person. Nobody likes a person who arrives to the birthday party without the present, for example. So, if the woman is a good one and a generous one towards the guy or the people around, very much possible that the heard of the guy will melt out and he finally will marry such the girl.

The lady likes to make compliments.

All guys like to feel themselves to be a particular. It is good when the woman is not keeping all the feelings inside and immediately express them like the compliment. And, such the woman is not jealous when the guy is looking handsome, so the other women can like him when he is out. For example, the lady tells the guy what suits him more. And, it means that she cares about her guy and how he looks like.

The lady is not a spoiled one.

The woman does not need the expensive presents to be happy. She is getting happy when the guy unexpectedly hugs her or cooks for her. She does not like to complicate the life and she likes just to live on.

The lady is different from other women there.

And not only in the way of being a beautiful one person. It can happen that other women around would be more beautiful, then that lady. But, for the guy exactly that woman will be the most attractive.

The lady is showing the interest towards the life of the guy.

The lady is trying to improve the guy's mood, if something disturbs him. The guy should not treat like the baby, what actually are doing there many guys, to obtain the attention of the woman. The lady is attentive to the guy's needs and habits. For example, such the woman will even make in order the man's socks there in the mood her guy likes. Because she knows that this makes her guy more happy.

The lady likes to stay happy.

The woman is not complaining there all the time. She is happy about what she has. The lady likes to live happy, and she is not flying somewhere in the sky up to the clouds. She is not a boaster. And she never makes the guy to feel worse, then she.

The lady is accepting the guy like he is.

The woman loves the guy in the way he is. She is not trying to change the guy and adore him totally. She is not trying to change the guy. And what can be better, then this?

The lady likes adventures.

The woman will never regret to make a trip to mountains. Even, if it is raining there. She likes to risk. And she is ready to go with the guy where ever, even if she had the desire to stay home. The lady likes to plan adventures. And, the woman has the list of all the unusual things that she is gonna do with the guy once.

The lady can cite the proper arguments.

The woman has all these wonderful features. But she has a strong character too. Nobody can just cross over her and make her to feel the fool. She knows how to express her opinion. And, even to prove it, if there is the need.


Tuesday, March 13, 2018

WHAT ARE THE RULES OF HAPPY MARRIED?

HERE ARE 20 RULES THAT YOU HAVE TO FOLLOW IF YOU WANT TO SUPORT HAPPY AND LONG LIFE WITH YOUR PARTNER. THERE IS NOTHING EXTRA ORDINAL, IT'S EASY AND YOU CAN CREATE YOUR HAPPINESS WITH YOUR OWN HANDS.

Find good things inside you partner.

"The happy married is not the one when you live with the perfect person. Both of you are grown up enough, not to stop the attention on such the small things like disadvantages". - Fon Viver.

It's quite easy not to pay attention on the small problems that exist in every family. And, more over, not to fight with each other because of disadvantages. In happy married people appreciate these unique features of character, which made them to fall in love with each other.

Find the happiness

"The married can not make you happy by default. Only you can achieve that!" - Doctor Les and Lesli Perrot.

The every day routine it is always is possible to make more funny with hobby, that will bring the benefit to both of you. Not possible to achieve happiness, if all the time you are not happy because of something.

Study to forgive

"The perfect married it is not the connection of two perfect people. This is only two common people, that forgive each other". - Darlin Shacht.

The forgiveness should be appreciated, as it is one of the most important elements of happy married. If you will all the time fight for something, not letting the negative emotions away, sooner or later you married will be torn apart.

Everything starts from you.

"The good luck in the married starts in that case when you can become a reliable friend for your partner, not just the nice looking one. - Barnet Brinker.

Don't try to change yourself for your partner. It will turn on in a sad way for you. Just start  to do good things by your own, and everything will turn on right. You will be surprised with the effect you'll get!

The married is on the first place.

"The married you cannot just get like any other physical thing. The married you have to deserve. This is the appearance of the true love between both". - Barbara de Angelis.

Do not consider the married like something personal. It is considered not only you, but also your partner. Both of you have to work on the married together and put it on the first place.

Demonstrate the love every day.

"The worst thing that can make the person being married, it is indecision of feelings. It is very important to tell your partner that you love him, until there is such the possibility". - Orlando Batista.

Here is everything clear: get open and express your feelings how you can.

Protect what you have there.

"The married is like a good wine, that with the years passing just is becoming better." - Unknown author.

Appreciate and enjoy every moment of your common life, because it will attract
more positive moments into your life. And this will make your married more happy and stronger.

Take care about yourself

"You husband will appreciate much how much you take care about yourself. This is one of  the ways of taking care about his feelings and well being, too". - Stormi Omartian.

How can you build the happy married, if you would not have time for yourself? Find time for yourself, and you will see the result.

Take a lesson from the mistakes of the past and dream about better future.

The married is like the a cultural event, which connects people nowadays, leaving the past. Try to find and understand your mistakes of the past and build the happy future with your own hands.

Study new things

"The right married can make the curiosity to grow up. That can make not only to develop people with intelligence, but also make people to be more happy". - Perl Bak.

The wish to study the new things was never a bad idea. The self-education it is a way to the strong and happy relationship.

Live today

"It is nice to live today, without thinking about tomorrow. And, if tomorrow arrives, this way you will have one more day to live happy." - Maks Lukado.

Be considered about important things, do not distract for potential problems and routine. Live today, because you will not notice how tomorrow will arrive.

Appreciate good things of each other

"The couples where people can appreciate the best qualities of each other there, always will be in love. It can make people free of odd thoughts. - Doctor Les and Lesli Perrot.

Be kind and generous

"The right married is the competition of being generous". - Diana Sojer.

Try to present to your lover something special each day. Even the compliment and a cup of coffee will be enough. This will show the partner that you love him and take care of him.

They judge according to the deals

"People, who are happy in the married, always let each other feel that love. It is shown with the deals, not only with empty words". - Chinese proverb.

Be sure that you do not talk for nothing just. Because they will judge you according to your deals. Talk less, do more!

Do investment into the married.

"The more you invest into married, the more precious it becomes". - Emi Grant.

Nothing can replace the time that you spend for improvement the relationship.

Important details

"The married includes many not that important or barely visible details, which normally keeps it going on. And they are able to make a strong love to appear". - Sonja Shvad.

For the love it is not necessary the great performance of feelings. It is enough just to pay attention on details.

Show the support

"Appreciate what it is more developed in your appearance. And the disadvantages?Better to let them go" - Unknown author.

It is easy to be in the relationship where everything is ok and you do not have to take care about anything. But, everybody has the moments when it is necessary to ask the help of someone else, including the partner.

Keep the relationship burning up

"The married is like a great house, where sometimes the lamps are burning down. And, if you find these lamps and turn them on again, then your private life will become lighted again". - Unknown author.

Be sure that each of you do the investment in the relationship. It is important. And you can feel sorry about that in future.

Think free

"If you would like to get to know something, feel free to think without any limitations. - Unknown author.

Creativity can make the relationship more bright, and it will make the married stronger and make the partnership more happy.

Responsibilities

"The married will be happy only in case when you can not skip your responsibilities" - Doctor James Dobson.

Move in the direction of your lover and do your part of the work. This way you will conquer everything there.

THE LIST OF MEN'S EXCUSES THAT HAS TO OMIT EACH WOMAN WHO EXPECTS HAPPINESS

''ALL TRUETH  ABOUT  MEN" OR
THE LIST OF EXCUSES THAT HAS TO OMIT EACH WOMAN WHO EXPECTS HAPPINESS
The man can invent whatever excuses not to say the truth directly. It is easier to jump out of the window, then to say just directly :"You do not suit me". Probably, the man does not like you that much, if he does not invite you for a dating. Because, if the guy dating.

Here is the list of excuses from the book "All the truth about men", that should omit any woman who hope for happiness.

1. So, the excuse: "May be, he does not want to destroy our friendship". Pity, but this excuse is out of critic. And, do not say, for example, that: "He is scared". Only one thing that the guy can be scared in this case is that is to say the truth that you do not attract him at all.

2. The excuse: "Probably, he is not brave enough to make the first step". The woman can give the hint to the guy that she feels the sympathy to him. But, it is not worth to help him to invite you for the dating. The smile and the wink will be enough in this case.

3. The excuse: "May be, the guy does not want to accelerate the events". If the woman really attract the guy, but there are personal reasons why he does not want to force the events, such the guy will immediately say about it. He will not skip the response, as he needs to be sure that you will not get disappointed and will not disappear from his life .

4. Excuse: "But, he used to give me his phone number". Do not let the guy, using the cheep tricks, to make you to invite him for the dating. If, the guy is interested in the woman, he would do all by his own.

5. The excuse: "May be he forgot about me". Be sure, the guy remember you. And now leave all like it is. If the guy likes you, such the person will remember you whatever disaster happens there in his life.

Remember:

-- Any excuse means that the guy is not that much interested in your personality. The guys  are not afraid to destroy friendship.

-- Do not accept the guy's tricks and do not invite the guy for the dating. If, the man really likes you, he will invite you by his own.
-- If you can find the guy, it means that the guy can find you. And, if he wishes to find you,  he will do it.

-- "Let's meet in some party, in some cafe, at the friend's house, -- these do not belong to the dating.

-- You are worth enough to be invited for the dating.

Probably, not that much the guy likes the woman, if he does not call that woman. The man  knows how to use the phone.

1. The excuse: "But he is so often travelling". Take like a note: the man who is interested in the woman and wants to spend time with that woman, will do it whatever it costs him.

2. The excuse: "But, he is busy with completely different things". The most important thing here is "Is it normal that the guy forgot to call me?" The response "No". The guy never has to forget that he promised to call you. Aren't you waiting for such the guy, that rather will forget about everything in his life, then about you?

3. The excuse: "He is talking not what exactly he is thinking about". Indeed, at the end of the phone conversation or dating, the man is talking what, as they think, the woman would  like to hear. They think that it is better, then nothing. That's why, if the guy with whom the  woman is dating, is promising to call and is not calling, so, if is it worth to pay attention on him? It is necessary to get the man who at least can keep to the given word.

4. Excuse:"But, he is very busy". The word "busy" is the bullshit. It is used with by assholes normally. The word "busy" can destroy in one moment any relationship. Being too much busy can seem to be a convincing excuse, but indeed behind this concept hides the man who was not interested to call you.

Remember:

--If he is not calling you, it means he is not thinking about you.

-- If he gives promises and later does not keep to the promises about not very important things, be sure that the same will happen later about the important things, too.

-- If the guy does not do any efforts to calm you down and stop the conflicts that may appear in the relationship, that's mean that he does not respect your feeling and needs.

The guy does not like the woman that much, if he is not recognizing the fact of relationship. As to spend time together it does not mean dating.

1. The excuse: "He just over lived the painful finish of relationship". Be careful about the word "friend". It is often used by men or women, who are in love with these men, to justify their bastard behaviour.

2. Excuse: :"But we are really dating".

The men, like the women, try to obtain the feeling of protection and safety, when they see that the relationship is getting serious. One of the most wild spread ways to get this is to claim the rights for that person. The guy who is really interested in you, will have the desire you totally belong to him.

3. The excuse: "It is better then nothing". You need the guy who really wants you, always calls you and makes you to feel the most sexual and willingly woman all over the world. The relationship where you meet with the guy one time in two weeks or in a month, and you are not feeling the love, the sympathy from his end, can due temporary, but not for entire life.

Remember:

-- Men are talking about their feelings, even is you regret to listen to or do not believe in their confession. "I am not ready to serious relationship" means that "I am not ready to serious relationship with you".

-- Better then nothing should not satisfact you.

-- If you do not understand what in going on in your relationship, it is nothing bad in asking a few questions.

-- There exist one guy all over the world, that would like to tell there everybody that he is your boy-friend. So, stop to be a fool: pick up and go to find him.

Not that much the guy likes you, if he does not want to make sex with you. If the man likes the woman, he always will have a wish to touch her. The true is simple: you do not attract him. And he does not want to make you pain.

1. Excuse: "He is afraid that he will feel pain again". If is he afraid? Yes, he is afraid to make you pain. That's why he did not make the situation with your relationship clear. He loves you like a friend. If he would like you like a woman, he could not control himself and would start a romantic story.

2. Excuse: "I drive crazy the guy so much, that he is not showing any interest".
Sure, many people in the past used to suffer. And nowadays those people are afraid of serious relationship. But, if the guy really loves the woman, nothing can stop him to get that woman, even the scare of serious relationship.

3. Excuse: "But this is so cool". Once they have believed that the woman regret to make sex with the man when wants for the purpurs to get the power upon that man. Seems like the males also educated to use this method. If the guy, who staying at the bed with you, just watches the movie there, you just do not attract that guy.

4. Excuse: "He is finding explanations for everything". Ask yourself a question: is such the relationship good for you? Or better, if you want to feel yourself like this all the rest of  the life? The sex is also a great satisfaction that the man can obtain.

Remember:

-- Communication is wonderful. But, if communication is united with the sex, it is even better. Otherwise, it is just friendship, not relationship between man and woman. Better to find such the person who would not refrain from touching you.

-- If your self-esteem is low, such the person have to spend much more time for improving  it, like for looking for the new boy-friend.

The guy does not like the woman that much, if he has sex with another woman. It does not exist any convincing excuse for the betray.

1. Excuse: "There is no excuse for him, and he knows that". The betray it is bad. And, being betraying, and being not able to explain the person why the betray took place, it is even worse. Do not meet with the guys who do not know why they did this or that.
2. Excuse: "But I got extra kilos". Possible you have to get rid of the extra kilos. But, first kick away the ass of the guy who betrays , saying that you have extra kilos.

3. Excuse: "He needs more sex, then me". These is no the excuse of betraying for that reason.. There are many ways to solve that very wildspread problem, that appears because  of the difference of sexual needs.

4. Excuse: "But, he at least used to know her". It is not important, if the guy loves the woman or not. The guy let it know clearly what is there his attitude towards the romantic relationship. He got the temptation to meet another woman, organised the meeting with her, and had intimacy.

Remember:

-- There is no excuse for the betraying.

-- Only one responsibility what the person has while the attack of another person it is your  own feelings.

-- The betray is the betray. And it is not important with whom the guy betrayed there and how many times it used to happen.

-- The liar can never be happy. ( Because all of them are bastards).

-- The man who betrays first of all betrays to himself, if he cannot build the normal relationship with one person.

The guy does not like you much indeed, if he wants to see you only when he is drunk. If the man likes the woman, he would look for the way to meet that woman when his brain is free of stimulators, too.

1. Excuse: "I like when he is under the influence of the alcohol". If staying in the bar, the guy is talking "How nice you are" and hugging a bit stronger, then he should, it is time to think, if you can trust to the words of the guy when he is drunk. And, if you really need such the guy?

2.Excuse: "At least, he is not drinking the strong drinks". Do not let to make a fool of yourself. That he is not getting out of legs each time when you are together, does not mean  that is good to switch off the brain with the light drink each time when you are together.

Remember :

-- The guy's words mean nothing, if he said them while being drunk. "I love you", or other sayings, that are said when he is drinking (even the light drink), means nothing.

-- Using the alcohol and drugs, it is not a way to the most important feelings of the person.  

-- You deserve such the man that need not to use any stimulators to spend time with you.

The guy does not like the woman that much, if he does not want to marry that woman. Each of the ex- boyfriends that used to tell you that he does not want to marry, or does not  believe in married, or has doubts towards getting married, once will make weeding. But not with you.

Remember:

-- "Does not want to get married", or "Does not want to get married with me" - these are two different things. Get sure to which group exactly belongs the guy.

-- If you have different points of view about getting married, probably there will be found also other issues that would bring to disagreement.

-- If in your relationship nothing is changing, so what for are you waiting there?

-- Somewhere in the world there is the guy who wants to get married with you.

The guy does not like you that much, if he has left you.

1. Excuse: "He needs me". Do not stay happy, knowing that the guy misses you. Sure, he has left a unique woman. But, he was and he is a man who left you.

2. Excuse: "After such the decision it is a bit easier". There is one thing that the young man would never do, if he does not imagine his life without you: such the guy will never leave you.

3. Excuse: "But all do like this". Sure, the sex after driving apart is cool, as it is nice to have sex with the person that you know. And, it is also cool to have sex with the person to whom there are strong feelings.

4. Excuse: "But, later he wants to come back". After you and your young man separate, he  will start to look for another lady, a better one. And, if he fail, he would feel lonely and will come back. It does not look like that the guy likes you that much. But, looks like the guy does not like to stay alone.

5. Excuse: "I disagree to accept the fact, that he left me". It is a pity that the guy left you. But, trying to make the boy-friend to come back, you make the boy-friend to think : "What did I once found in this crazy bitch?" Remember to be always on top and never getting crazy.

Remember:

You can not stop the split of relationship with conversations. The discussions will not help here. The split of relationship is the final decision and is not discussed.

-- Sex after finishing the relationship does not mean that you are together again.

-- There is no need to remind him what a wonderful person you are.

--Somewhere in the world there exist the person who would be very happy that you did not restart once the relationship with your terrible ex- boy-friend.

The guy probably does not like you that much, if he just disappeared. So, here is everything clear. This way, the guy let the woman understand that she is so much far away from what he likes or wants, that he did not even respond the calls or does not call by his own.

1. Excuse: "May be, he died". There is nothing worse like not to get the respond from the person who you are in love. The only one reason why you should write such the person this is the wish to get the confirmation of the regret. Did you forget that better not? You are very busy with your fans, potential boy-friends, and you do not have time for such the silly things!

2. Excuse: "So, seems like I cannot even fight with him for the last time?" It can seems like you will feel better, if you call the guy and fight with him on phone. You can feel like you let him to get out clean. But, nothing from what you want to tell him, will make the situation to be better, or him to feel guilty. It is possible to you that time in more useful way.

3. "But, I just would like to get the respond". Do you think you deserve to get the respond what has happened in deed? Sure! I can respond you: you have met a terrible person.

Remember:

-- May be the guy really stays in hospital, suffering from amnesia, but more realistic thing there is that he just is not interested in you so much.

-- The missing of respond it is exactly his respond to you.

-- Do not give the guy the possibility to regret you again.

-- Let the guy's mother to make scandals for him. And you are too busy person for him.

-- There is no secret: the guy just went away from your life, and he is not worth you.

Friday, March 9, 2018

ALL THE PROBLEMS OF THE MEN STARTS FROM CHILDHOOD... HOW TO BRING UP THE YOUNG GUY HE TO BECOME THE REAL MAN?


So often it is possible to hear there: "I have met the wrong guy", or "I thought he was another person", or "It is not my type of the man"... And the woman leaves away such the guy, being disappointed. Possible, sometimes such the men can be disappointed that the partner left him for these reasons. And, sometimes they might also think that it was their fault the women had left them. Indeed, if the guy meets some problems like this in the relationship, first of all, it is the fault of his parents, specially, the father.

...The period of being in love with the mother it is the most important period in the life of the young boy. It is the most sensative moment. It is the moment when the interest to the females appears. It is also the time to become mature and brave. In this period close to the baby-boy has to be the father. The father, who clearly can let the son understand that the mother belongs to him. And to the son potentially belongs many other women. The Complex of Epid to pass in the harmony way it is the destiny and the hard work of the father : the son can not be the elect of the mother. This divides the life of the son into two parts. The one when the baby-boy mergers with the mother and his desire to come back into intrauterine period. And another one period when being separated with the mother, he can become independent in future. And in future he can have the women like a male, not like a son, who looks for the way of the merger with the mother. That's why it is so important the father was ready to accept the son in the period of necessity and complicated confrontation. That's why the man has to ask himself the question: which father there was my father, and which father there will be I?

The appearance of the father has a great role in the development of the baby-boy and his relationship with the world and other people who surround him. Via that appearance of the father and his attitude to it, the baby-boy gets to know what does it mean to be a man. Depends on what the father there was, his son will have appropriate character.

Pity, not all fathers understand how important there is their present in the baby-boy establishing like a mature man. Here is the typology of the fathers, and the influence of such the prototype and behaviour later.

The absent father

Such kind of the father can be present physically in the family, but be absent in emotional way. The family for him is like the furniture. Such the person did not accept the role of the father, and left it for the mother, or for another man.

The son of the absent father feels like to be left alone. The father left the young guy in some way alone, so he feels like he is not worth the attention. This feeling creates the basics of the low self-esteem. The baby-boy who needs the father, will be looking for someone from his surrounding for that role, or will create the imaginative image of the father. The son gets angry for being left alone without attention. And he can built the image of "father stealer". Late such the person will see that image in another men, specially whose who have the power.

The key to compensate the absence of the father, the fatherhood.

The son of the absent father will feel difficulties in the appearance of strength and braveness. The scare in front of the woman is also possible, the problems with the erection. Very often the women tell to such the guy that he is too much soft or gentle. Or that they can not feel his presents, his involvement in the process. Such a kind of guys often are not faithful.

So, the key to compensate the absence of the father is his own fatherhood. That's mean in the future to become the father that really takes care about the son and spends enough time, gives enough time and attention. Such the guy, that in the past had the absent father, can also help the presents of mentor that will help to overcome the difficulties of the life.

The father that forbids

Too much harsh father blocks his son. Only he, the parent, can enjoy the life. But, at the same time and that way, he stops his son from growing up and becoming mature. When all the power has the father, the son remains like a small kid among all these "forbidden". The father takes away the possibilities of the son to feel his own value. So, for such the baby-boy the surrounding people feels more worthy.

Such the limitations can make influence to the person in all the fields of the life. In the relationship with the women is all the time the taboo. To take the risk in the business is also not for him. The issue of being brave is just a theory that never gets in practice for such the guy. Such the men do not feel themselves independent, it is very hard for them to make the decision, being based just on their own opinion and suggestions.

And this type of man is specially jealous. All without exclusion seems for such the man better and stronger competitors. Depending on the amount of things there were forbidden and how harsh there was the father, there sexual specialities of the the guy will be different, too. The son of the harsh father has the problem with erection, and premature evaculation, and it makes the self value down. Very often such the man forbid the partner something: control the surrounding - with whom she talks, chose the clothes for her by his own.

It is important to make the clear frames there. This is the basic of education. But it is important to do it in benefit of the interest of the son. Because the desire to teach the lesson, to give a lesson to the son, it will identify the forbidden type of the father that influence his kid in the way that was described before.

The rude father.

Many men demonstrate being courageous with the appearance of stiffness. But, the rude father is a great block for the future mature man. The scenes of violence and humiliation from childhood, they keep in the memory for all the life, and the surrounding people seems to be scary, amoral, be able to be cruel. Exactly, for that reason many men are afraid to become parents. It seems for them that the father is a cruel creature. It is written down in their brain by default. And this monster can appear any moment out. And it means the night mare of the childhood will appear in their life again.

The baby-boy has just two ways of behaviour : to bend in front of the cruelty of the father, or to stand against it with all the power.

Getting self-confidence via the son, the cruel father kills from early beginning the braveness of the son. Being band, he gets into shame and self-humiliation. Being stood against, he gets the all the time internal tension.

Depending on the chosen way, the sexuality will develop according to that. In the first case it is possible the low down temperament. In the second case it appears the idealisation of the woman, taking her like not avaible, up to obsessive sexual practice. Any obstacle takes out of the balance such kind of the man.

Working hard on themselves, the sons of the rude fathers can get peace in the new family, in the relationship with close to them people. They can study to live in happiness, not like during the war attack all the time.

Father-Safer

At first the image of the father-safer can seems like to be the positive one. But this is the double sides type. Too much taking care tyle of father do not do things together with the child, but instead of the child. Such the father is too much switched into the life of the son. And, it can happen that even getting happy about failures of the son. "So, you see? I used to tell you"! This is a being dependent position for the baby-boy. It is hard to make decisions independently for him. The opinion of the father remains the most important and decisive.

There are such the fathers that instead of "I used to tell you", just say "This is not a mistake, but the experience. And this way making the son to accept all the sides of the life and does not feel himself to be a loser because of each miss.

If to transfer it into the sexual sphere, in the first case the guy will take any imbalance in the sexual function like the total crash and put his self value down. And the second case the guy will try to understand the reason of the mistake, and based on the experience, will omit the conditions, that will put his sexuality into risk.

Suffering father.

Many men talk about such a father like about the weak one person, suffering one. This sufferings can be psychological (long depression, following with using alcohol, or somatic - long chronic sickness. Anyways, the father does not manage with the role of a strong person, that the son needs so much.

With such a type of the father, already in childhood the son has to take the place of the head of the family. The consequences can be different: it can appear the feeling to be better, then others (I am stronger the the father!") . Or the deep sadness ( " the father is not available, absent, the one staying apart"). It can develop too much altruism, the desire to make everybody happy. These people very often become the doctors, safety guards or the representatives of other helping on professions.

The image of the suffering father can become a reason that in future the guy can not take care about his partner, including sexual issue, waiting for the taking care will be directed on him. The sexuality can be accepting like a complicated and hard thing for him.

Father-partner.

The most natural i constructive style of the father: the son and the father are the part of one community. They can co-operate without words. The father so to say is saying:"We have the same blood with you, we do according the the same rules, solve the same problems. Let me show you how it is to be the man, and you try by your own to become the one, in your own style".

Such the father does not secure his son much: he understands that since early age the baby-boy has to handle with the definite level of uncertainty, sure according to the age. He carefully checking how much the son can handle the challenge. He is watching how via overcoming the boy is moving towards the new level of development.
Here is felt the clearness and freedom, but not the tries to dominate. Such the way helps the man to find his ow power, where also is present the fact of his own vulnerability. It helps him to become sensual and attentive towards surrounding people. And the opposite, the believe in invulnerability like in only one possible appearance of power, makes the young guy far away from his surrounding, and from himself, too. It leaves the opportunity to accept moments and find experience via them.

The men, who feel themselves the part of the community of the men, have the healthy and harmony way attitude towards women. The mystery female are fascinating them, bringing to the strong sexual thrust with all the possible curiosity: the wish to have, to get to know, to inquire, to seduce in sexual life. Such the men do not try to make the woman to be like their slave, to outdo her. And such the feeling of partners being equal, even if they are different people, create the possibility to live the full and rich sexual life.